~ terima dia seadanya..



Seorang wanita dan kekasihnya bernikah dan acara pernikahannya sungguh meriah….semua kawan dan keluarga mereka hadir menyaksikan dan menikmati hari yg berbahagia tersebut. Suatu acara yg luar biasa dan sungguh meriah. Mempelai wanita begitu cantik dan anggun dalam gaun putihnya dan pengantin lelaki dngan tuxedo hitam yang gagah. Setiap pasang mata yg memandang setuju mengatakan bahawa mereka sungguh2 sepadan.

Beberapa bulan kemudian, si suami berkata kpd isterinya:

“syg, abg baru membaca sebuah artikel dalam majalah tntang bagaimana memperkuatkan hubungan dan tali pernikahan kita”, katanya sambil menunjukkan majalah tersebut”…

“masing2 kita akan mencatatkan hal2 yg kurang kita sukai dr psangan kita. Kemudian, kita akn mmbahas bgaimn kita mgubah hal2 trsebut dan membuatkan perkahwinan kita bersama lebih bahagia…”

Isterinya setuju dan mrk mula memikirkan hal2 dr psangannya yg tidak mrk sukai dan berjanji tidak akn tersinggung ketika psangannya yg mencatat hal2 yg kurang baik krn ia adlah untuk kebaikan mrk bersama. Malam itu mrk sepakat utk berpisah tidur dan mencatat apa yg terlintas dlm benak mrk masing2. Esok pg ketika sarapan, mrk sedia membincangkannya.” Abg akan mulai dulu ya”, kata suami. Ia lalu mengeluarkan senarainya. Bnyk sekali yg ditulisnya, sekitar 2 muka surat…..ketika ia mulai membacakan satu persatu hal yg tidak dia sukai mengenai diri isterinya, ia memperhatikan isterinya tertunduk dan sedikit air mata bergenang di sisi matanya…mgkin ada sedikit kesedaran pd perwatakannya sebelum ini tanpa disedari….

“ maaf sayang, apakah abg harus berhenti?” tanyanya. “Oh tidak, teruskan…” jawab isterinya. Lalu si suami melanjutkan membacakan senarai.

Giliran sayang…abang sedia mendengarnya”..dgn suara perlahan dan tersekat-sekat isterinya berkata, “Maafkan sayang…sayang tidak mencatat sesuatu pun di atas kertas sayang.syg fikir bahawa abg sudah sempurna di sisi syg. Dan syg tidak ingin mngubah akn diri abg. Abg adlah diri abg sendiri. Abg hensem dan baik hati di sisi syg. Tidak ada satupun drpd peribadi abg yg syg dapati kekurangannya. Syg cintakan suami syg yg dulu, sekarang dan selamanya selagi hayat syg. Si suami tersentak dan tersentuh hatinya oleh pernyataan dan ungkapan cinta serta isi hati isterinya…bahawa siisteri menerima dirinya seadanya.

Dia kemudian tertunduk dan mengalir air mata.

Sebelum kita mencari kekurngan org lain, carilah kekurangan diri sendiri. Adakah kita cukup SEMPURNA untuk dibandingkan dgn org lain????kalau jawapannya YA, maka kita berbohong atau kita PERASAN. Krn tiada manusia yg SEMPURNA dlm dunia ini dan sentiasa ada yg perlu diperbaiki..

Hakikatnya org2 yg menyayangi diri kita krn klebihan kita dan menerima sgala kelemahan kita, sudah pastinya org ini adlah sgt ikhlas menyayangi kita…

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kdp sygku ajoy azrul.. 

like i always tell you, we shouldnt change ourselves drastically bcoz i love u for who u are, i love u for yr character, and if u change 360 degrees, chances are, i might miss the old you.. hope you feel the same for me as well.. ^_^
love u..

~ sayangilah suami anda..




suatu perjalanan
tanggungjawab suami selain memberi nafkah dan mencari rezeki, jangan lupa bimbing anak dan isteri. kalau suatu hari berlaku selisih faham, jangan cepat menuding jari. duduk berbincang dan cari kata sepakat. tiada bumi tidak ditimpa hujan.

~ teringat satu pesan di suatu petang
"pak mat dulu bila arwah isteri pak mat mula bising bersuara, pak mat tak balas dengan kata-kata. pak mat keluar hidupkan motor, pergi ke pekan cari mee goreng mamak. bila sampai saja di rumah, pak mat hulur pada arwah isteri pak mat. muka yang tadi masam terus tersenyum riang. suami kena tahu kesukaan isteri, supaya mudah memujuk hati." pak mat menambah, berkongsi pengalaman selama 41 tahun bersama arwah isterinya.persefahaman antara suami dan isteri bukan boleh dicapai sehari dua. ia merupakan satu perjalanan sepanjang usia perkahwinan. cabaran dan dugaan pastinya tidak sama di awal, pertengahan dan di hujungnya. justeru, sikap saling memberi dan menerima sangat perlu dipupuk dan dibaja. memberi kelebihan diri untuk saling melengkapi. menerima kekurangan untuk saling menginsafi. suami mahupun isteri bukanlah manusia sempurna.

~ silap isteri
kesilapan isteri bermula apabila melupakan kebaikan suami kerana benci dengan sikapnya yang tidak menyenangkan hati. silap menjadi dosa andai keistimewaan suami orang yang sering dibicara. keburukan suami dijaja, atas alasan minta nasihat rumahtangga. tapi apa maknanya kalau semua orang bercerita. Rasulullah SAW pernah mengingatkan melalui sabdanya yang bermaksud ;"wahai kaum wanita, aku lihat kamu lebih ramai di neraka"....seorang wanita lalu bangun bertanya, "apakah yang menyebabkan yang sedemikian? adakah sebab kami ini kufur?" Rasulullah SAW menjawab, "tidak. bukan begitu. tetapi ada dua tabiat kamu yang tidak elok yang boleh menjerumuskan kamu ke dalam neraka,

1. kamu banyak mengutuk atau menyumpah
2. kamu kufurkan kebaikan suami
  
"ada kalanya, isteri merajuk tanpa sepatah kata. suami yang tidak tahu menahu, terus buat biasa. muka isteri semakin kelat, hilang serinya. menahan ego diri, ingin dipujuk dengan kata cinta. namun tidak berbicara dan bersemuka. suami tertanya-tanya sendiri, akhirnya terasa hati. salah siapa agaknya, bila masing-masing memendam rasa. kasih mula bertukar marah. marah nampaknya menyala benci.

~ yang lebih, yang kurang"awak beruntung ye, dapat suami yang memahami. tak seperti saya. hari-hari menjeruk rasa." luah seorang teman yang baru beroleh cahaya mata. "suami saya juga ada kurangnya. tapi kelebihannya banyak untuk saya perkatakan. saya pun isteri yang ada salah dan silap."  jawap Anis supaya dia buka mata.

"ada suami yang tak pandai urusan rumah tangga, namun dia bijak berjenaka. meriah suasana. ada suami yang jarang menghadiahkan bunga, tapi selalu membelanja anak dan isteri dengan makanan istimewa. dan ramai juga suami yang tidak reti memujuk, bermain kata, tapi mudah bertoleransi bila diminta bantu sini dan sana. ketepikan kekurangannya dan ambil kelebihan. pasti awak juga akan rasa bertuah beroleh suami seperti dia." pujuk Anis lagi. moga-moga dia berubah hati. kembali memandang tinggi kehadiran seorang suami.

~ engkau terbaik untukku

"sedangkan lidah lagi tergigit, apa pula suami isteri, buang yang keruh, ambil yang jernih, baru teguh peribadi."wahai teman yang bergelar isteri, sama-samalah muhasabah diri. pohon keampunan dari Ilahi agar cinta Nya kembali bersemi. banyakkan istighfar dan juga sedekah, kerana janji Allah setiap kebaikan menghapus kejahatan. susunkan jemari pintalah kemaafan dari lelaki bernama suami. jangan bertangguh dan jangan lengah. bimbang maaf tiada serinya lagi. pandang wajahnya, lihat matanya, bisikkan di sanubari "terima kasih suamiku, engkau terbaik untuk diri ini." 

mencari dan terus mencari cinta Ilahi.
saling berpesan-pesan kepada kebaikan
"the only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing"

~ bila isteri terluka..



today tak tau knp byk pulak posts about husband n wife relationship.. good ones.. and i feel it is important that we share them.. this is also to remind ourselves krn manusia mudah lupa kan.. i'll be posting 2 more entries such as this.. happy reading ^_^

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bila isteri terluka..

untuk berkongsi dgn pembaca (kalau ada yg baca lah).. untuk panduan para suami.. jua pesanan sy pd diri sendiri.. jgn relakan hati merana dgn berpura2 gembira. kena luahkan dan tunjuklah jika tidak suka.

  • suami bukanlah raja yg akan pancung kepala org sesuka hatinya. suami ialah sebhgn hati kita, yg jika jiwa isterinya terbakar separuh, maka jiwanya turut rentung bersama..
  • luahkan rasa tak puas hati semasa kejadian masih baru berlalu. krn suami cepat terlupa, bhw dia telah melukakan hati kita..
  • jika kita pendam saja, lihatlah nnti, kita ungkit semua smpi suami pecah kepala, fikir semua salah dia. sedangkan kita selalu bermanja seolah2 tiada apa2
  • pernyataan supaya isteri yg wajib menanggung segala rasa dan menahan keinginan, adalah sesuatu yg perlu diulas. dibuka terang lebar:
  1. isteri yg bersuara kuat dan gelak mengatakan dia "tak apa2", sedang berjuang untuk memastikan hatinya tidak terluka. peganglah tangannya..
  2. isteri yg tajam pandangannya ialah yg terluka hatinya, yg x mahu dipujuk, cuma hanya mahu gembira semula. jgn byk ckp.. kang kena 'fire'..
  3. isteri yg marah dan bengkeng ialah yg keliru antara ingin sedih atau kecewa.. yg perlu tempat mengamuk segala. berilah peluang dia seimbangkan hormonnya.. dia lebih tau di mana salahnya.
  4. isteri yg redup matanya bila melihat suaminya, sambil tersenyum ialah isteri yg sedih hatinya, yg ingin dipujuk sblm mengalir airmata. pujuk la cepat..
  5. isteri yg menangis ialah yg ingin meluah rasa, yg ingin diberi ruang sendirian melepaskan semua sendu di dada. biarkan dia nangis sepuas2nya.
semuanya kerana seorang yg bergelar suami..

- kerana hanya dgn suami kita berkongsi kepala di bantal yg sama
- tempat berehat di dada yg halal
- tempat kita tenang di tgn yg halal
- berkongsi tubuh dan ruang bilik
- dgn org yg kita sendiri yg redha utk hidup semati di hari kita diakadkan

jadi redha, berterus terang lah, dan selalu lah memaafkan.. hati lega, jiwa gembira dan tiada salah sangka..


::esperanza spalding::


for those who watched grammy awards 2011 wud know some of the debates going on about the winner of the best new artiste going to esperanza spalding instead of justin bieber, the public's favourite.. i too was one of those who went 'wha? who? who's tat???'.. my fave radio show also had a topic about this lately and debated that justin bieber shud win instead of ms esperanza.. but, while the discussion/topic was going on, i was actually thinking, who is she.. she must hve been great for her to win kut.. gotta google her soon.. 


i did, today.. and was blown away by her.. her voice.. her music.. i love to layan jazz songs from time to time.. i think u guys wud know seeing the songs that i've shared here kan.. and when i youtubed esperanza spalding, i fell in love.. and now i know why she won.. so to the super talented esperanza spalding, congratulations to you!! i personally think u deserve it too.. those who opposed yr winning, well, they just dont appreciate music like yours.. different cup of tea, different taste hence difference of opinions kan.. tats life.. c'est la vie.. ^_^

so.. wanna get to know her? well here she is.. this song is called precious.. enjoy.. ^_~


esperanza spalding - precious
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Love me or leave me
But please
Don't deceive me
And say you
Love me how I am
You love the way
I fit some ideal
Not the real woman
You've yet to understand
See love ain't all heaven
And I am no angel
But I do the best I can

You always wanted
Something more from my body
And said you needed
Something more from my loving
But all you got was me
And that's all that I can be
I'm sorry if it let you down

Now it's no nice excuse
But all the magic was used
Up on trying to uphold
Some kind of tame
Flattering persona
That soon enough
Was getting real old
It takes more than pressure
To change rock to diamond
Now all you have is sand
Slipping through your fingers

You always wanted
Something more from my body
And said you needed
Something more from my loving
But all you got was me
And that's all that I can be
I'm sorry if it let you down

But I'm not gonna sit around
And waste
My precious divine energy
Trying to explain
And being ashamed of things
You think are wrong with me
I'm not gonna sit around
And waste
My precious divine energy
Trying to explain
And being ashamed
Of what you think
Is wrong with me

Set you up
You say I set you up
Like I was different
Than what I am
Offering you now
And drug your heart around
Did you forget about
All of the love
And the acceptance
That you promised me too?

You always wanted
Something more from my body
And said you needed
Something more from my loving
But all you got was me
And that's all that I can be
I'm sorry if it let you down
You always wanted
Something more from my body
And said you needed
Something more from my loving
But all you got was me
And that's all that I can be
I'm sorry if it let you down
But I'm not gonna sit around

And waste
My precious divine energy
Trying to explain
And being ashamed of things
You think are wrong with me
Me, I'm not gonna sit around
And waste
My precious divine energy
Trying to explain
And being ashamed
Of what you think is wrong
With melt let you down

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::reading pleasure??



lately, my reading habits hv diverted to something important that i shud have indulged myself into ever since i got married.. takpe la, better late than never kan.. wat have i been reading about?

::gourmet burger journey::

my hubby, ajoy is a burger lover.. literally.. pegi la restaurant mana2 that has burger on the menu, wpun ada benda lain like pasta, steak, fish, chicken ke apa ke, burgerrrrr jugak yg dia pilih.. hihihih.. unless he already knows tat place nyer burger tak sedap.. like delicious.. their burger not delicious one.. very the dry.. some may like their burgers like tat, but not us.. we like ours juuuuu-seeee (juicy)!!!! but wat about those burgers they sell at giant semua? mmg la ajoy tak mkn.. i bole je telan hehehe..

because of this, i am determined to learn making great burgers for ajoy.. i tried before, he loved it, tried again, he loves it still (smpi jilat2 jari).. but i know i can do much better than tis.. tis is wat i did today:


what we have here is my homemade burger patty (click here for recipe) to which this time i added some paprika and rosemary, baby lettuce, melted cheese on top of the burger and topped with sauteed onion and mushroom with parsley and drizzled with chilli sauce.. 

my dream.. is to create my own sauce.. find a better burger bun tat can take the weight.. this buns i bought mmg lembut giler2, sedap sgt roti dia.. but, after putting everything, the bun soon becomes flat.. not how i want it to look like la.. :P  also, i'd love to add some crunchy beef bacon to have tat lovable crunch in every bite.. mcm whopper burger king.. but of course it'll be better with my own patty la kan.. chewahh.. :P

ok, inspirations? loadsssss!!! i also found this site that has 21 top rated burger recipe! will come back here to improvise my burger recipes soon.. ^_^

::kelakar kadang2::

ajoy and i have been living at our apartment sejak kitaorg nikah lagi.. at this apartments, mostly are couples like us, or small family with 1-2 children but byk jugak rumah sewa.. one day, we saw someone wrote on our common white board about them knowing ada org bawak boyfriends/girlfriends masuk umah, masuk lif asing2 etc.. so sejak tat 'message' kan, i noticed some neighbors pandang2 lain macammmmm je kat kitaorg.. hihihihi.. especially when they're in the same elevator as us.. they had this look of 'diaorg ni da kawin ke belum.. selamba je naik sama2" hahahahahaha.. well this is partly our fault sbb, we hardly join any of our apartment's meeting or apa2, tp weddings ada la join.. timing selalu salah pun hehehe (sometimes sekdr alasan la hihihi).. so there are soooo many neighbors yg we've never seen, and m sure they dont know us either, hence the look they've been giving us.. hihihi kelakar la kadang2.. sometimes org2 surau yg pandang kitaorg semcm tu rasa cam nk je ckp 'kitaorg da kawin la pakcik.. nk tgk kad nikah??" hihihihi.. :P

on a bright side, i guess we dont look tat married huh.. nmpk muda la konon kut wakakakakakakakakakakakaka!!!! ye la, it is not like we changed our style of dressing pun sejak kawin.. hihihi.. so still nmpk cam dulu gak sblm kawin kut.. :P 


::kantoi::

this was from my mummy's email too.. funny hihihihi..
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Why husband should not answer.....
WIFE: 'What would you do if I died? Would you get married again? 
HUSBAND: 'Definitely not! 

WIFE: 'Why not? Don't you like being married?' 
HUSBAND: 'Of course I do. 
WIFE: 'Then why wouldn't you remarry? 
HUSBAND: 'Okay, okay, I'd get married again.' 

WIFE: 'You would?'
HUSBAND: .......?
WIFE: 'Would you live in our house?'
HUSBAND: 'Sure, it's a great house.'
WIFE: 'Would you let her drive my car?'
HUSBAND: 'Probably, it is almost new.'
WIFE: 'Would you replace my pictures with hers?'
HUSBAND: 'That would seem like the proper thing to do..'
WIFE: 'Would you give her my jewelry?'
HUSBAND: 'No, I'm sure she'd want her own.'
WIFE: 'Would she wear my shoes'
HUSBAND: 'No, her size is 6.'
WIFE: -- silence .......
HUSBAND: 'oh shit'. 

::very inspirational::

got this from my mum.. best sgt2.. hope tis will inspire you too.. ;)
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*source: mr gugel


There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind.


She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend.  He was always there for her.   She told her boyfriend, If I could only see the world, I would marry you.



One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.



He asked her, Now that you can ! see the world, will you marry me?



The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind.  The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her.  She hadn't expected that.  The thought of looking at them the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him.



Her boyfriend left her in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying:  Take good care of  your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine. 




This is how the human brain often works when our status changes.



Only a very few remember what life was like before, and only a very few remember who was always by their side in the most painful situations. 



Life Is a Gift



Today before you say an unkind word, 
Think of someone who can't speak.
Before you complain about the taste of your food, 
Think of someone who has nothing to eat.



Before you complain about your husband or wife, 
Think of someone who's crying out to GOD for a companion.



Today before you complain about life, 
Think of someone who went to heaven too young.



Before you complain about your children, 
Think of someone who desires children but are barren.


Before you argue about your dirty house,

Think of the people who are living in the streets.

Before whining about the distance you drive, 
Think of someone who walks the same distance.



And when you are tired and start to complain about your job, Think of the unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your job.



And before you think of judging another, Remember that not one of us is without sin and we all will have to answer to one GOD.



So when depressing thoughts seem to get you down, Put a smile on your face and thank GOD for all he has given you. 
  
 God's love is unconditional! 

::14 ways to save $$$ on groceries::

my MIL emailed these very useful tips.. balik ni nak terus buat.. tq mama! ^_^


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1. Line the bottom of your refrigerator’s crisper drawer with paper towels. They’ll absorb the excess moisture that causes vegetables to rot.

2. To keep herbs tasting fresh for up to a month, store whole bunches, washed and sealed in plastic bags, in the freezer. When you need them, they’ll be easier to chop, and they’ll defrost the minute they hit a hot pan.

3. A bay leaf slipped into a container of flour, pasta, or rice will help repel bugs.

4. Stop cheese from drying out by spreading butter or margarine on the cut sides to seal in moisture. This is most effective with hard cheeses sealed in wax.

5. When radishes, celery, or carrots have lost their crunch, simply pop them in a bowl of iced water along with a slice of raw potato and watch the limp vegetables freshen up right before your eyes.

6. Avoid separating bananas until you plan to eat them – they spoil less quickly in a bunch.

7. Put rice in your saltshaker to stop the salt from hardening. The rice absorbs condensation that can cause clumps.

8. Stock up on butter when it’s on sale – you can store it in the freezer for up to six months. Pack the butter in an airtight container, so it doesn’t take on the flavor of whatever else you’re freezing.

9. In order to make cottage cheese or sour cream last longer, place the container upside down in the fridge. Inverting the tub creates a vacuum that inhibits the growth of bacteria that causes food to spoil.

10. Believe it or not, honey is the only nonperishable food substance, so don’t get rid of the stuff if it crystallizes or becomes cloudy. Microwave on medium heat, in 30-second increments, to make honey clear again.

11. Prevent extra cooked pasta from hardening by stashing it in a sealed plastic bag and refrigerating. When you’re ready to serve, throw the pasta in boiling water for a few seconds to heat and restore moisture.

12. Keeping brown sugar in the freezer will stop it from hardening. But if you already have hardened sugar on your shelf, soften it by sealing in a bag with a slice of bread – or by microwaving on high for 30 seconds.

13. If you only need a few drops of lemon juice, avoid cutting the lemon in half – it will dry out quickly. Instead, puncture the fruit with a metal skewer and squeeze out exactly what you require.

14. If you’re unsure of an egg’s freshness, see how it behaves in a cup of water: Fresh eggs sink; bad ones float.
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