salam all.. lama tak update kan.. sorry, teramat bz.. (ada ke pembaca aku nih??? :P)
anyways.. i juz wanna share something that happened to me just recently.. ajoy n i are still not pregnant.. but, we dont fret about it.. we are instead taking our own sweet time and enjoying every waking moments together..
however, that changed briefly recently.. someone asked and remarked the usual about being childless to me. normally i wudnt be affected but somehow or rather i was, maybe because of her body language, intonation and the words she used. i had to gather all my will to not cry, not answer her back with bitter answers, and to brave the afternoon with a smile, and layan everyone else there except for her..
oh well the closed pipe didnt close for long, i cried when i left the place, letting out all my tears.. luckily i have great friends to console me and i was soon chirpy and happy again..
i just wanna state it out here loud and clear.. until we are blessed with pregnancy and a healthy baby, we WILL DEFINITELY NOT frown about not being pregnant, but instead WILL DEFINITELY ENJOY doing these activities becoz we are well aware that the moment we have a baby these activities would be quite difficult to do:
1) dating dating dating! berdua ya, bukan dgn anak2.. tat doesnt count as a date..
ok, i got some disclaimer to make before you guys with kids starts jumping and accusing me of stuff k.. i know some married couples do take d time to date.. good for you! i hope when we have babies/kids, we'll be like u as well..
2) watching movies.. at cinema, bukan rumah watching star movies or astro first..
disclaimer: we love watching movies at home too. it is just tat we knw some ppl who have kids who made it loud and clear to us tat they envy us for being able to watch movies at cinema becoz since they have kid(s), they have never stepped foot in a cinema.
3) having romantic dinners..
disclaimer: this can be done for married couples with kids too.. i dont know how they do it, but when i have kids, i wud sure wanna find out how.. hehe..
4) romantic getaways..
disclaimer: kalau ada babies tak jadi romantic dah la kan hehehe..
5) lounging at home just the two of us.. clothing is totally optional haha!
disclaimer: do u need one???? :P
6) sleep! yes we knw we have this luxury for now..
disclaimer: those with kids yg tido sama time dgn parents are VERY lucky! i hv no idea how my babies will be like, but watever pun, we'd better be enjoying watever we have now hehehe..
7) shop what ever we want for us.. coz we dont have to priorities 'the babies' yet kan..
disclaimer: again, do u need one??? bila ada babies confirm babies will be the priority over our blouse or pants or shoes! hehehe..
8) hang out at coffee shops, having quiet moments and read novels/magz/etc together2..
disclaimer: seriously u dont need a disclaimer for this kut..
9) work xtra hours n not worry about our babies or overtime fee for nursery..
disclaimer: kalau ada maid tu lain citer la kan hehehe..
10) getting to knw each other more and more.. improving our relationships.. improving our marriage lives..
disclaimer: this is actually for married couples who have been married for less than a year and already pregnant. i personally know many friends who do not really have the time to get used to married life, still have a lot to learn about their spouse tp tiba2 da pregnant.. this somehow results in a lot of altercations between spouses. as for us, we are still learning about each other.. n enjoying every moments of it..
what i need to point out here is there is NOTHING wrong with having babies early, as well as nothing wrong with being late in that department like me.. there are pros and cons in everything we go through in life.. it is how we manage them that counts..
all i wanna say is yes, we do want to be pregnant.. but, in the mean time we have stopped stressing about this as it got us no where, which is why we are taking our own sweet time..
everybody has their own rights to choose their own path in their lives, we do too.
HOWEVER, if you already have children and are wondering why we havent yet, choose your word wisely before blurting out a faux pas to us or any childless couples.. some of us are trying extremely hard, looking if they succeed every single month, some are taking it slow like us, and some do not want children for watever reasons that we have to respect. remember, you are nobody to judge anybody for the choice they have chosen in their lives. ok? :)
k la.. shud stop now.. bye.. :)
